Mother Silouana Vlad talks about a common reason for failed marriages today: turning the partner into an object. “Therefore, the man is no longer a person who unites me with God, through which I grow in my relationship with God”.
Subtitles: English, Romanian
Video source: Doxologia 2020
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bFIqRdcEzQc
Mother Silouana:
The unmarried woman, who wants very much to get married, should pay a visit for a week, to a friend who already got married… And if she still wants to marry… then she should pray for it…
We don’t know what we ask… There are so many women asking for a man and then… She asks me, “Mother, what can I do to get married?” And then: “Mother, is it a sin to divorce?”
The problem in these examples is that we transform our desire in a desire for objects. We transform the reality into objects. The man is an object, the child is an object, the car is an object.
The man is no longer a person who unites me with God, through which I grow in my relationship with God.
The only solution for those who want to stay Christians and maintain a relationship with God (but even non-Christians will discover this too, it’s for everyone)… Our desire is oriented towards the Absolute. We are not satisfied with a little…
“I have now a man, but I’m still not satisfied. What did I do wrong? Why?”
Because my desire wants the Absolute, wants God. And when I want God, my man becomes the gift of God and the work of God with me. He shows me my weaknesses, I see his weaknesses and I pray for him. Together we move closer to God.
It is very important to understand that God, in the couple, in the family, He gives me strength to help the other one to become himself or herself. And not to become like me, not like my mother, not like my father…
So, you are a miracle but still in potency… God gives me love and strength to help you to become as you want and as God wants. And you help me to become what I want to be and what God wants. And my children are God’s gift and I train them to become what God wants them to be not what I want… (“You should become a judge like I am!”)
Let’s stop turning people into objects!
AMEN 🙏 🙏
DIVINE WISDOM 🙏❣️
LORD JESUS SON OF THE LIVING GOD HAVE MERCY 🙏 ON ME A SINNER 🙏❣️
I perceive there is so much more to these words of wisdom that need to be expounded upon. I wish there was a more in depth explanation for those of us who are spiritually, handicapped, hard of hearing! 😯🙏
Yes . Beautifully expressed ..
Aveti mare dreptate maicuta ! Si eu am cerut un barbat bun si am suferit pana la ora actuala sa- u implinit 27 de ani .
Beautifully said 💜
Thank you for posting, as a young single woman, I wish there are more people like her to advise us. I'll share with my friends!
Amen !!!
thank you for sharing, very nice video.. yes.. some people are very selfish and only use others for their own needs.. they do not see their spouse as equal, but as lower than them, they do not love, but use the other one, they do not grow in love together.. true love grows with time, fake love deteriorates, and two married people can be like two total strangers to each other even after 15-20 y of marriage.. today popular term for such selfish and arogant people is – people with strong narcissistic characteristics.. they abuse love their spouse has for them..
Thank you! Very good advice. keep me close to the cross
😅😅😅 in which world???
Tot ceea ce primești în LIVE – întrebări dar și aprecieri scrise – linkuri – vin de la pers care îți sfidează propria incultura vasta atit din pt de vedere intelectual dar mai ales pt cel spiritual
Eu sunt cea mai păcătoasă ființă dar sa ii fie rușine Mitropolitului Moldovei Teofan – sfidează Sf Biserica afirmind ca este Spital Duhovnicesc deși nu a făcut absolut nimic ca lucrurile sa ramina neschimbate – Sf inviere a Mintuitorului a stat comod fără sa lupte pt adevăr – este foarte comod – pe de alta parte a sfidat și manipulat poporul roman invocind în discursul sau aparent FALS pe un pr Cleopa – slavindu-l îl defavorul lui IISUS HRISTOS – este un profet MINCINOS – ERETIC
Beautiful! Thank you
Astala malek shmigblik ???
Oh, I wish someone would translate more of her teachings into English, including the whole interview that this excerpt came from! There seems to be such a rich body of teachings from monks, nuns, and clergy that are from overseas and that aren't in English. Makes me wish I could speak a dozen languages so I could listen to and understand them…
Most of these modern women are not natural wives; they're concubines.
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Weather we're aware of it or not, it is true. We do objectify people. Because as much as we think we love them, apart from God, we really don't know how to truly love. Thank God that in Christ all things are possible and we can learn! Lord have mercy on us! 🙏
So true! As a grandmother and widow I see the reality of Mother Siloana's advice. The family is founded on God, as we see in the Old Testament. Even in a modern world these values do not change. Blessings Mother Siloana.
Amen. Lord Have Mercy!
thank you for posting mother silouana's words with english subtitles. i would like to see more of her advice. i have seen the other 4 which i could find. please, translate more. God bless!
i-ti mulțumesc ca existi , maică siluana
What beautiful wisdom! Thank you Mother Siloana!
I desire to marry and hope to become closer to God through it. But God have Mercy on me I definitely fall short and objectify people. If only it was so easy to truly love people, the world would be much better off.
I personally disagree with this way of thinking. Either stay single and become a nun, or get married and put the spouse in your highest priority otherwise its a matter of time the divorce due to boredom or third person to come. Every person who is in love with somebody else wants to be the king of the spouse's heart. If sb is fighting internally to satisfy spouse's will and God's will then the marriage is already condemned to end soon. Nobody can be a monk/nun and normal person of the world as well. Too much spiritual monk/nun lifestyle means divorce soon or later. Do not get married if you feel your heart belongs only to go because you will destroy someones else life.
At 2:10 a more correct translation would be: "And I serve them (am in service to my children) so they become what God wants not what I want."
Amen! Absolutely wonderful advice.
Where is the full interview ? I love her wise words🌸